Two friends are fighting and there’s nothing I can do about it. I have an opinion, sure, but I can’t interfere and the discord is killing me. Although this is something I know they have to sort out between themselves, knowing that there is nothing I can do hurts. In the meantime, I sit back and wait. I’ve considered all of the angles, who’s right, who’s wrong, what I would say to try to patch things up… The truth is, I have to accept that there are some times when I need to stay neutral. Between you and me, I hate neutral. Sometimes if I’m in limbo about anything, I push chess pieces around just to force a resolution. I tend to say the hard thing and let the chips fall where they may. Sitting still and keeping my mouth shut is something that has never come easy to me. I’ve always felt that sometimes you just need to talk things out, no matter how difficult. Some people don’t react well to that.
I guess the truth is, the single most painful, torturous thing in the world to me, the thing that will send me into an complete and total emotional tailspin, is the idea that there is something negative between me and the people I care about.
So, have you ever been in a situation where you had to choose between neutrality and a potential fight with your friends? Which did you choose? If you had it to over, would you choose differently?
Draft the scenario. The impact on friendship one way or the other. How did you feel? What was the impact on the relationship?
Writing Prompt: Letting the chips fall