People react to anger in different ways. Some people yell, others sulk, some throw things, others shut down. If I’m honest, I’m a slow burner. It takes a while to get me angry, but when I get there, everyone stand back. I don’t throw anything, but I stomp about swearing. Not very lady-like, I know, but it’s either that or violence.
When you think about it, anger is one of the more honest emotions. It come quickly, with a cause. The reaction of someone in anger comes from the feeling of injury and so it’s easier to forgive someone who acts out of anger. Their reaction is something that can make you question where it comes from and can either trigger the same feeling in you, or make you empathise.
I’m angry a lot lately. There are all sorts of reasons why, but I find that how I react is in my control. Nothing is broken, no one is hurt. Some of the things that are upsetting me are in my power to change, others are not. So, I have a choice to make. I can either get more and more wound up or I can change the things in my control and ignore the things that aren’t.
Try this – write a scene where two people are fighting. Try to write from both character’s point of view. How does each one react?